September 4 2016 Affair-Proofing Your Marriage

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Affair Proofing Your Marriage

Memory Verse: Exodus 20:14 "You shall not commit adultery."

How to Affair Proof Your Marriage

1. MAKE A COMMITMENT TO GOD'S STANDARDS

Psalm 119:9 "How can a (person) keep his way pure? By living according to your Word."

Proverbs 5:15 (GN) "Be faithful to your own wife and give your love to her alone."

2. MAGNIFY THE CONSEQUENCES

Proverbs 6:32 (GN)"The one who commits adultery is an utter fool, for he destroys his own soul."

3. MAINTAIN MY MARRIAGE

1 Corinthians 7:3 (GN)" A man should fulfill his duty as a husband and a woman should fulfill her duty as a wife, and each should satisfy the other's needs."

The top five needs of most men are:

  1. Sexual fulfillment
  2. Recreational companionship
  3. An attractive spouse
  4. Domestic support
  5. Admiration

The top five needs of most women are:

  1. Affection
  2. Conversation
  3. Honesty and openness
  4. Financial support
  5. Family commitment

1 Corinthians 7:5 (Ph)"Do not cheat each other of normal sexual intercourse ... or you will expose yourselves to the obvious temptation of Satan."

4. MANAGE MY MIND

How Affairs Develop

  1. Accepting sinful thoughts in my mind
  2. Emotional, non-physical involvement
  3. Physical involvement
  4. Rationalizing the affair

James 1:14-15 (LB) "Temptation is the pull of a person's own evil thoughts and wishes. These evil thoughts lead to evil actions and afterwards to death."

2 Timothy 2:22 (Ph)"Turn your back on lustful desires and give your positive attention to goodness, integrity, love, and peace..."

Romans 16:19 "I want you to be wise about what is good and innocent about evil."

5. MAINTAIN PROPER RELATIONSHIPS

Ephesians 5:3 "But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality."

6. MINIMIZE THE OPPORTUNITY

1 Corinthians 10:12 (LB)"So be careful! If you are thinking, `Oh, I would never behave like that - let this be a warning to you. For you too may fall into sin."

1 Corinthians 15:33 "Bad company corrupts good character."

Malachi 2:15 "Guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith with your wife."

THE PATHWAY BACK TO PURITY

  1. Acknowledge the sin (Psalm 51:1-4)
  2. End the relationship immediately
  3. Avoid ALL contact with the person from now on. Do whatever it takes to do this!

May 11 2014 Building Confidence In Your Marriage

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Building Confidence In Your Marriage 

Ephesians 1:19-20 – And His incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of His mighty strength which He exerted in Christ when He raised Him from the dead.

Stress Points of Every Relationship:

  • Unexpected differences.
  • Unmet needs.
  • Unforgiven mistakes.

Three Areas We Need Strength In

1. Strength to fathom our mates differences.

1 Corinthians 2:11 – No one can really know what anyone else is really thinking, or what He’s really like except that person himself.

1 Peter 3:7 – Husbands, you should try to understand the wife you live with.

Proverbs 24:3 – Homes are built on the foundation of wisdom and understanding.

James 1:5 – If you lack wisdom, you should ask God who gives to all generously.

2. Strength to fulfill our mates needs.

1 Corinthians 7:3 – The man should fulfill his duty and the woman should fulfill her duty as a wife and each should satisfy each other’s needs.

Philippians 2:4 – Look out for each other’s interest, not just your own.

Philippians 2:13 – God, who is at work within you, will give you the will and the power to achieve His purpose.

3. Strength to forgive our mates mistakes.

Proverbs 21:19 – It’s better to dwell in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging woman.

Ephesians 4:31 – Let there be no more bitter resentment or anger, no more shouting or slander and let there be no bad feelings of any kind among you.