April 21 2013 How To Manage Conflict With Others

HOW TO MANAGE CONFLICT WITH OTHERS
Philippians 2:1-8

Verse 2 - Make my joy complete by being likeminded, having the same love, being one in Spirit and purpose.

Five Ways To Manage Conflict

I. Defuse competition

Vs. 3 - Do nothing out of selfish ambition.

James 4:1-2 - What causes fights and quarrels? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You want something but you don’t get it.

First Cause Of Conflict: Competing desires

II. Delete conceit

Vs. 3b - Do nothing out of vain conceit

Proverbs 13:10 - Pride only breeds quarrels.

Second Cause Of Conflict: Pride

III. Decrease criticism

Vs. 3c - In humility consider others better than yourselves.

Def. Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but rather not thinking of yourself at all.

James 4:11-12 - Anyone who speaks against his brother or judges him, speaks against the law and judges it. There is only one lawgiver and judge. Who are you to judge your neighbor?

Third Cause of Conflict: Criticism

IV. Demonstrate consideration

Vs. 4 - Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.

1 Peter 3:7 - Husbands in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives so that nothing will hinder your prayers.

Forth Cause Of Conflict: Only paying attention to myself

V. Develop more Christ-likeness

Vs. 5 - Your attitude should be the same as that of Jesus Christ.

Vs. 6 - Jesus did not demand His rights.

Vs. 7 - Jesus was a servant.

Vs. 8 - Jesus sacrificed for the benefit of others.

Fifth Cause Of Conflict: Living without Christ

Ephesians 4:3 - Do your best to preserve the unity which the Spirit gives, by the peace that binds you together.

May 8 2011 Characteristics Of A Strong Home

CHARACTERISTICS OF A STRONG HOME

I Chronicles 13:14

Verse 14 – The ark of God remained with the family
of Obededom in his house for three months and the
Lord blessed his household and everything he had.

The Needed Characteristics:

1. The Presence of Jesus Christ.
Ex. 25:16 - God told Moses to place inside the ark the
tablets of stone that had the Ten Commandments on
them.
Eph. 2:16 - As parts of the same body, our anger against
each other has disappeared, for both of us have been
reconciled to God and so the feud ended at the cross.

2. A proper attitude.
Numbers 17
Phil. 2:5 – Your attitude towards each other should be the
same as that of Christ Jesus.

Attitude Ingredients:

• Consideration
Eph. 4:2 – Show your love by being helpful to each other.
* Paying Attention
* Focus On Each Other’s Strengths
* Showing Common Courtesy
* Respect
I Thes. 5:11 –Give encouragement to each other and keep
strengthening each other.
Prov. 12:10 – Take delight in honoring each other.

• Commitment
I Tim. 6:20 –Guard what has been entrusted to you.

Commitment:

• Children respect their parents.
Exodus 20:12 – Honor your Father and Mother, so that
you may live long in the land.

How to Show Respect:

• Obey them while at home.
Eph. 6:1 – Children obey your parents.

• Accept and appreciate them.

• Listen to their opinion
Prov. 23:22 – Listen to your father who gave you life and
do not despise your mother.

• Forgive them.

• Appreciate their effort and sacrifice.

3. Demand right action.
Eph. 4:3 – Make every effort to keep the unity of the spirit.

• Communication
Prov. 13:17 – Reliable communication permits progress.
* Verbal Attention
* Interested In Each Other’s Feelings
* Setting A Time To Talk

• Compromise
I Cor. 13:5 – Love does not demand its own way.
* Conflict
* Won’t Always Agree
* Compromise Is The Evidence Of Love

• God is faithful.
John 6 :48-51 –I am the bread of Life, your forefathers
ate the manna in the desert yet they died. But here is the
bread that comes down from heaven, which a man may eat
and not die.

GOD CAN BLESS YOUR FAMILY

August 22 2010 Practicing God's Kindness Under Pressure

PRACTICING GOD’S KINDNESS UNDER PRESSURE

I Peter 1: 22 – 2:10
I Peter 2:10 – Once you knew very little about God’s
kindness, now your very lives have been changed by it.
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Facts about God’s Kindness

1. God’s kindness must be personalized
(Eph. 2:8 – Because of His kindness you have been saved through His kindness.)
(Romans 12:1 – Dear brothers I urge you, in view of God’s mercy, offer yourselves as living sacrifices to God.)
• The Good Samaritan

2. God’s kindness develops the love principle
(I Peter 1:22 – Now you can have real love for everyone because your should have been cleansed from selfishness and hatred, so see to it that you really love each other warmly with all your heart.)
(I Peter 2:1-3 – Get rid of the feeling of hatred. Don’t just pretend to be good, be done with dishonesty and jealousy and talking about others behind their backs, put away evil, deception, envy and fraud. Long to grow up into the fullness of your salvation.)

3. God’s kindness will persevere
( I Peter 2:6 – See I am sending Christ to be the carefully chosen corner stone, and I will never disappoint those who trust in Him. David said – He is my Rock and my fortress my God in Him I take refuge and He only is my salvation. He’s my stronghold and on that Rock I’ll not be greatly shaken.)
(Psalm 62 – When my heart is faint, lead me to the Rock that is higher than I, for You have been my refuge.)
(Isaiah – Trust in the Lord forever for in the Lord we have an everlasting Rock.)

4. God’s kindness must be put into practice
•Find someone to forgive
(Eph 4:32 – Be kind to each other forgiving one
another.)
•Be understanding
(Eph. 4:32 – Be tenderhearted.)
•Supply someone's needs
(Matthew 25:35 – For I was hungry and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in.)
•Be a peacemaker
(Eph. 4:3 – Try always to be at peace with one another.)
(Gal. 6:2 – Share each other’s troubles and problems.)